On the 2019 list of "things we should have never tolerated to begin with but we have for whatever reason and it definitely needs to stop", slut shaming is at least in the top 5.
A few weeks ago, one of our lovely Scandal messaged us saying how one of her close friends decided to stop talking to her after seeing her boudoir photos online. Long story short, her "oh so scandalous photos" made her look like she was an attention seeker and could not be trusted, especially around said-friend's husband. Mindblowing, isnt it?
We have a universal truth for you: taking photos of yourself in a sensual setting showing partial or suggested nudity does NOT make you a whore, it makes you a freaking goddess. And it might surprise you, but it has nothing to do with any physical aspects.
There are 3 types of people:
Those who are in the process of conquering their fear of something, anything, by stepping out of their comfort zone. They seek Happiness with a capital H and believe it resides in continuous learning and positive challenges in life.
They know the recipe but haven't started putting the ingredient together yet.
Those who are a few steps ahead with a few life experiences under their belts, thus have already learnt to develop a "no fucks given" mentality and celebrate the fact that they can be who they really are.
They have built solid foundations of confidence and it shows in everything they touch.
Last but not least: those who don't dare thinking outside the box and, quite frankly, are pretty scared to explore what's happening on the other side of the white pickets fences of "proper" beliefs they -or their environment- have built for them.
Guess which persona usually reaches out to us? #1 & #2. Why? Because they understand that boudoir photography is far from being just pretty photos. It is a set of tools given to you to start or finish the process of embracing yourself.
Gainsome experience points and level up
By embracing yourself, you are taking the chance to live your life to the fullest, according to your needs.
Here is the super important part: by learning to do this, you are demolishing negative beliefs, you become much better at facing obstacles, are significantly decreasing any source of anxiety and you trust your guts. You know what you need and are not afraid to do what it takes to make it happen. In other words: you know your worth.
Suddenly, the path to your dream job doesn't seem out of reach anymore. Or you know you can work your ass off to build the home of your dreams.
You will also attract relationships who will respect, appreciate and lift you up. Bonus: you will know how to do the same to others because you can acknowledge other people's worth too.
Think of it as a major level up. I like to think with each skills acquired in life, we have little "xp" points popping up above our heads like in video games. The higher you go, the more tools you unlock to keep leveling up.
So what if you use boudoir photos as a part of your ongoing growth?
There is something to learn in every experiences you go through. We know that and you know that.