Have you been checking our work, refreshed our social media, shared our website, even clicked on the contact page and yet, you are missing this final little push to finally make the leap to treat yourself to a boudoir shoot? You are not the only one.
Over the past few years, we have been lucky to meet so many different women (and men), all inspiring in their own ways. When we get a chance to explain our boudoir work, 95% of women we talked to are curious, even interested. Yet, we have noticed that we kept hearing the same thing with some lovely ladies between 45 to 60 years old: ”I am way too old to do boudoir." So we decided to dig deeper.
Sit tight, it's getting interesting...
Half of our clients are actually over 50.
That may sound surprising but it is true: we do get a lot of Scandals between 50 to 60 years old. We just keep them secret because we are asked to, due to various privacy requests (yes, booking a session does not mean having your pictures published online, but that’s another story). They usually book their session to own their bodies and learn how to love themselves (again). It’s a fact: just because you are getting older doesn’t mean you are getting ugly. BOOM.
What is really behind the ”I am too old to do this”
We went straight to the source (aka fabulous wiser Scandals) and this is what came out: being potentially judged by other people scared the hell out of you.
Just the thought of having someone potentially say you look ”ugly” or ”ridiculous” is unbearable.
Your body has changed over the year. Your skin isn’t what it used to be. Maybe you had children and your body adapted itself. Maybe you think you are not ”in shape” enough. Maybe you are scared of getting older and it is easier to avoid seeing how you really look because you are afraid of what you may see. Posing nude or half nude is the ultimate vulnerable experience. You can’t hide.
But what if what you saw is actually a lot better than what you THINK you look like?
We tend to see ourselves in a very negative way, especially on the physical aspect. We are too much of this, not enough of that. Wouldn’t it so much easier to just make peace with how you look and let it impact in a very positive way your everyday life?
Easier said than done, granted. It takes time and willpower to face yourself. But trust us, the outcome is always worth it.
Yeah that sounds nice, but I am still worried about what other people may think.
Truth is, once you start liking the way YOU look, chances are you won’t give a rat’s ass about what other people think of you. You will build your shield of self-confidence and will realize that the problem isn’t you. It’s them.
So with the help of the beautiful woman we illustrated this blog post with, we have put together some advice so you can get to that sweet spot of self-acceptance.
I see you coming: “blah blah hipster crap, everyone meditate nowadays, you think I have time to picture myself in a field of glitter?”
Well, yes, you SHOULD make time. Meditation teaches you to focus on your beautiful self and on your current sources of happiness but also let go of the negativity. And that my friend is the first step to a better you.
Bonus: meditation doesn’t have to be boring, cheesy or even take forever. Try Headspace and their free 10-minute guided meditation.
Give Pilates and/or yoga a try.
Both a great core workouts (aka the must to not end up walking like someone folded you in half when you are 80 years old) and a amazing way to improve your posture so you can stand straighter and taller. And guess what, standing taller physically also comes with feeling taller mentally. Jackpot.
Ditch the dummies.
As mentioned above, if you get negative feedback on anything you do, you are not the problem. The people giving you the feedback are. It sounds like you are not getting anything interesting from these specific people, the best thing to do is end the relationship with them. You don’t need demeaning people in your life.
Stop the self-forbidding.
That colourful dress caught your eye in the window and your little voice is telling you that you could never pull it off? On what ground? There are absolutely NO GOOD REASONS not to wear something that could make you happy. Don’t even try to justify it, just try to the goddamn dress instead. And don’t you dare dumping it at the bottom of your closet.
You know you want to.
Life is way too short to stop yourself from trying any experience that could make you happy. The minute you try something that make you happy, you start the snowball effect of happiness. I don’t know about you, but you can sign me up.
PS: none of the Scandals we photographed had any negative feedback from anyone. If anything, everything we had witnessed was full of encouragement and extremely positive.