Get ready for this universal truth: we all have hair. Everywhere. And you've probably heard at least once in your life "you should remove it", "it's gross", "why do you care?" "all natural baby!" "Aren't French people hairy anyway?"(oh wait, that one is for us eheh). It's time to unleash the truth.
We get asked quite often by our clients, men & women, if they have to shave or not before their shoot. So here it is:
Is it better to be shaved/waxed entirely before your boudoir session (or anything in life for that matter)?
No. Hair or no hair, it doesn't make one single difference. It's that simple. And if people are telling you the opposite, don't work with them. And it is because of a very simple reason:
the decisions concerning YOUR body belongs to YOU and you ONLY.
And that goes for everything concerning your body: tattoos, hair colour, piercings, you name it.
Why are you doing it to begin with?
Here is the second gigantic tip that will help you for the rest of your life:
These decisions you just took about your body? They have to be based on your opinion, not others.
Meaning that if you choose to get waxed every 3 weeks or not, it should be because it makes you feel great that way and not because you feel like you HAVE to do it.
Story time: a few months ago, we had a wonderful photo shoot with Léa Castor in Paris. She stopped removing her hair a couple of years ago now, because she realized that she wasn't really doing it for her, but for her lover at the time. She said that she wanted to start loving her hair the way it actually is, even though it is quite difficult, not because she thinks it looks ugly but because of the society. She felt like people will juge and criticize her.
When we first talked about her session, we really wanted to showcase and do close-ups of her hair to tell the world "hey see, it's not bad at all!" but it turns out that we just focused on her like we always do. And guess what?
No one actually noticed her hair and for the few photos where you could actually see it, it just looked great. not "eeeew" like some people can think. Isn't this super cool?!
So what if we just stop caring about what other people think and start taking care of our hair the way WE want to?
Don't be embarrassed about your hair
When people ask us if they should get waxed or not, there is always a weird feeling of shame flying in the air, like it's such a nasty little secret.
Truth is: if someone is judging you or giving you attitude because of hair and any other aspects of your body, you are not the problem, they are.
Isn't it about time for people to be able to treat their bodies the way they want to and say it loud and clear without feeling embarrassed?
A little recap for the road:
- Decisions about your body are only yours to make
- Don't let others influence these decisions.
- You don't have to wax/shave entirely if you don't want to.
- There is no reason to feel gross, ashamed, embarrassed about your hair. It's actually pretty useful to protect your body but that's another story.
So hair or no hair, if you feel comfortable and happy, it's all that matters. You will look beautiful either way.
PS: From what we've seen and our experience: French people are definitely hairier than Canadians and honestly, we don't care.