love the skin you are in

You deserve to love your body (again)

We all have "flaws". Yes, even that girl in the corner that you think is perfect, she very likely doesn't like something about her body. Sometimes they make their way in our minds because of others, or we create them ourselves from time to time. Time to take a breather and hug that body of yours.

 
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Your body changes all the time.

Whether you are 25 or 55, your body is in constant evolution. Maybe it is out of your control, maybe it isn't, but since it is likely to stay with you for a while, you may as well accept it and make peace with it. (I secretly vow to read this in 5, 10, 15 years and onwards.)

Don’t think of imperfection, think of a map of memories.

When you really think about it, isn’t your body a keepsake of everything you have been in life?

Scars, stretch marks, and other various changes, they are here to witness what you have been through and I am convinced these can all be turned into a positive outcome. Maybe your stretchmarks are witnesses of that beautiful baby of yours. Or that your body adapted itself to a new you. Scars are here to remind you that you can heal. You’ve done it before, you will do it again. And that’s a beautiful feeling.

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Guess what? You’re unique.

I have a birth mark on my neck - which I was asked a million times if it was a hickey - and I could have tried to hide it with foundation. Easy fix. But you know that, I decided it was cute and it’s even heart shaped a little. I also have a good layer of hard skin on my feet, but hell, I grip on my aerial silks like Spiderman.

Every birth marks, dimples, random beauty marks are what makes you unique. No one has the exact same body as yours and it is a great thing!

Isn’t it a breath of fresh air that, since there is no one like you, you can be anything YOU want?

Be the best version of yourself, not what people expect you to be

It personally took me forever to do anything concerning my body because I wanted to and not because my environment suggested I do or don’t. Wearing whatever I want, get tattoos, get physically stronger, cut my hair, shave, not shave, put makeup on and so on. If I feel like walking around naked for the hell of it, then so be it.

You will be much happier the minute you start making decisions about yourself for yourself. so go, dye your hair blue, wear that dress you love, stop shaving your armpits if it makes YOU happy.

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Over 50? Other people’s judgment shouldn’t stop you. #Fabulousat50

Have you been checking our work, refreshed our social media, shared our website, even clicked on the contact page and yet, you are missing this final little push to finally make the leap to treat yourself to a boudoir shoot? You are not the only one.

Over the past few years, we have been lucky to meet so many different women (and men), all inspiring in their own ways. When we get a chance to explain our boudoir work, 95% of women we talked to are curious, even interested. Yet, we have noticed that we kept hearing the same thing with some lovely ladies between 45 to 60 years old: ”I am way too old to do boudoir."  So we decided to dig deeper.

Sit tight, it's getting interesting...

 
Meet Muriel, 57 years-old and absolutely smoking!

Meet Muriel, 57 years-old and absolutely smoking!

 

Half of our clients are actually over 50.

That may sound surprising but it is true: we do get a lot of Scandals between 50 to 60 years old. We just keep them secret because we are asked to, due to various privacy requests (yes, booking a session does not mean having your pictures published online, but that’s another story). They usually book their session to own their bodies and learn how to love themselves (again). It’s a fact: just because you are getting older doesn’t mean you are getting ugly. BOOM.

What is really behind the ”I am too old to do this”

We went straight to the source (aka fabulous wiser Scandals) and this is what came out: being potentially judged by other people scared the hell out of you.

Just the thought of having someone potentially say you look ”ugly” or ”ridiculous” is unbearable.

Your body has changed over the year. Your skin isn’t what it used to be. Maybe you had children and your body adapted itself. Maybe you think you are not ”in shape” enough.  Maybe you are scared of getting older and it is easier to avoid seeing how you really look because you are afraid of what you may see. Posing nude or half nude is the ultimate vulnerable experience. You can’t hide.

But what if what you saw is actually a lot better than what you THINK you look like?

We tend to see ourselves in a very negative way, especially on the physical aspect. We are too much of this, not enough of that. Wouldn’t it so much easier to just make peace with how you look and let it impact in a very positive way your everyday life?

Easier said than done, granted. It takes time and willpower to face yourself. But trust us, the outcome is always worth it.

 
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Yeah that sounds nice, but I am still worried about what other people may think.

Truth is, once you start liking the way YOU look, chances are you won’t give a rat’s ass about what other people think of you. You will build your shield of self-confidence and will realize that the problem isn’t you. It’s them.

So with the help of the beautiful woman we illustrated this blog post with, we have put together some advice so you can get to that sweet spot of self-acceptance.

Meditation

I see you coming: “blah blah hipster crap, everyone meditate nowadays, you think I have time to picture myself in a field of glitter?”

Well, yes, you SHOULD make time. Meditation teaches you to focus on your beautiful self and on your current sources of happiness but also let go of the negativity. And that my friend is the first step to a better you.

Bonus: meditation doesn’t have to be boring, cheesy or even take forever. Try Headspace and their free 10-minute guided meditation.

Give Pilates and/or yoga a try.

Both a great core workouts (aka the must to not end up walking like someone folded you in half when you are 80 years old) and a amazing way to improve your posture so you can stand straighter and taller. And guess what, standing taller physically also comes with feeling taller mentally. Jackpot.

Ditch the dummies.

As mentioned above, if you get negative feedback on anything you do, you are not the problem. The people giving you the feedback are. It sounds like you are not getting anything interesting from these specific people, the best thing to do is end the relationship with them. You don’t need demeaning people in your life.

Stop the self-forbidding.

That colourful dress caught your eye in the window and your little voice is telling you that you could never pull it off? On what ground? There are absolutely NO GOOD REASONS not to wear something that could make you happy.  Don’t even try to justify it, just try to the goddamn dress instead. And don’t you dare dumping it at the bottom of your closet.

Book a boudoir session.

You know you want to.

 
 

Life is way too short to stop yourself from trying any experience that could make you happy.  The minute you try something that make you happy, you start the snowball effect of happiness. I don’t know about you, but you can sign me up.

PS: none of the Scandals we photographed had any negative feedback from anyone. If anything, everything we had witnessed was full of encouragement and extremely positive.

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