Ah. Pretty boudoir photos. Well that’s nice. You get them done and forget about them within a couple of months right? What if I tell you that it’s actually false? What if I add we can connect getting your shit together and boudoir photography together? Alright let’s get to it.
Disclaimer: while I am going to focus on women because – well - I am one, the following does apply to anybody.
Everything and everyone else comes first.
If you are a caring human being, chances are your own well-being is not #1 on your priority list. Your family, your kid, your partner, your business, your problems, you name it, probably are. Congratulations, you are a decent person and we need more people like you!
However, it doesn’t mean your own self-care should be forgotten. After all, you do read it on Instagram every day, with a perfect woman doing an incredible yoga pose at sunset hashtagging #NamasteBitches
And this perfect lady isn’t actually wrong. The reality is that, by putting people or things before you every day, all the time, you will burn out.
You will end up walking around with a little rain cloud over your head, wondering who you are, what the meaning of life is and how the hell you get out of this.
We can assure you that you’re gonna have one day during which you will feel the urge to slam doors as hard as you can because you’re not supposed to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders but you are trying anyway.
Why is this bad for you? Because you need to be at peace with yourself to basically function and do great things. How can you if you don’t take time to…. take time?
Easier said than done, right? Actually, no it doesn’t have to be.
Why are so many women struggling with this to begin with?
Simple answer: we are naturally nurturing. But most importantly, we are expected to be (the ability to be mothers and also the fact that we actually give a crap about what’s around us and all that). You are expected to be relied on and quite frankly, chances are you will be considered selfish if you dared announcing loud and clear “screw it, it’s me time today!”. How dare you, since your primary function is to take care of someone?
So, what do we do? We restrain ourselves from doing what we really want to do. It doesn’t have to be something big like moving to Argentina but even little pleasures in life that could do us some good.
Do we even deserve to do this?
During a panel we went to last week, someone said that women constantly undervalue themselves and it is a sad but true fact. On top of taking care of people and their things, we also think that we are not good enough. Probably because we are constantly reminded that we can always do more. So why would we reward ourselves with some “me-time” to begin with?
If you think this way, this is the moment when you take a seat, grab the tea we’re giving you, look at us right in the eye while we tell you “you are doing the best you can, you are awesome and you deserve a break.”
What does our boudoir work have to do with any of this?
Creating gorgeous art with your sexy self isn’t the main motive behind Scandaleuse. We wanted to create an experience around our photography work. A safe space in which you can let go, think about you, and more importantly: reconnect with yourself.
For a short amount of time in your busy schedule, you are a priority.
Boudoir is one of the only fields in which you can be your true self without hiding behind anything and even better: without being judged.
Of course it may feel awkward at first. But by embracing your vulnerability and turning it into a strength, you will be able to grow and tame (or rediscover) your confidence. And then what? You make a powerful tool out of it and use it in your everyday life. Other people’s judgments won’t matter as much, you will trust yourself a lot more to make bigger decisions and it will be easier for you to take on new challenges and succed at them. All of these can only lead to even more positives adventures.
Don’t underestimate the power of taking time to yourself. We all need to disconnect from our “duties” and reconnect with ourselves. Are we the only way to get some quality time with yourself? Of course not. We are just one of the long-term effective ones.